Consider this your trigger warning. — I’m not an adolescent. I’m not White. I’m not acting out for attention. I am a Black queer woman in my forties who intentionally inflicts pain on her body. Why the fuck would anyone do that? Honestly, I have no clue. I only know why I do it. I wish…

What I’ve learned about being a non-traumatizing friend to someone in pain — After my marraige crumbled two years ago I fell into a swampy dark depression. Most of my friends had no clue what to do. Many tiptoed around me not wanting to add to the pain. Others distanced themselves because the depth of my grief was more than they could handle. …